I. AM. GETTING. MARRIED. And I am beyond excited to be marrying the best man for me. I remember there was a time when I used to pretend that I didn't want to be married. It was something I used to say because I felt like it would not happen. But the desire has always been there. I grew up in a family where marriage was important. My mom and dad got a divorce when I was eleven but I am surrounded with positive, long marriages on both sides. I believe my mom and dad desperately wanted to follow in the footsteps of their parents and elders but they were entirely too young at the time. There's nothing like being at family functions and seeing my aunts and uncles dance together or seeing them working together in ministries at church. Watching them love on each other and lead the family was an obsession of mine partly because I wished my home was the same. I vowed that when I get married, I would try my hardest to have a marriage like the ones I grew up seeing.
And now it's my time. I have been engaged for about 5 months and it has been wonderful. The process of wedding planning has not been all that stressful and we have enjoyed it for the most part. But the overall process of engagement has created an awareness of self and others for me. An awareness that calls for a need to document the changes in me as well as my relationship through this process. What other way but to blog?
Becoming Clair is born! Who is Clair and why am I becoming her? LOL Well, being an 80's baby in a single parent home, we watched The Cosby Show faithfully. And although the image of Bill Cosby is now tarnished, it still does not take away what the show meant to me. Clair Huxtable is a pillar of strength and support. She's in charge at her firm and at home. She's beautiful, sassy, confident, and intelligent. She's one half of a partnership that is based on love and respect. She's perfection personified. And while I know that I will not be perfect in a marriage and in life, it does not hurt to strive for it. The journey that I am on is a journey to become all that Clair represented. Clair represents my granny, Aunt Karen, Aunt Sister, Aunt Helen, Aunt Lee, my mom, and all those who give their best for love and family. She represents the women you know too. I have the all the pieces of the puzzle and now I am just working to make sure they get put together right. I am excited for what's to come. Join me in my journey.
XOXO
